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Dearest Children of Mine,
We've talked about processing your feelings and being your own best friend though journaling. Now I'd like to talk to you about the importance of choosing your real life friends with careful intent.
There are four levels of friends: acquaintances, casual friends, close friends and intimate friends. The deeper the friendship, the more intentional you need to be about the people you pursue to be your friends.
It won't be too difficult to find people with whom you have affinity ... but you also need to consider how wise your intimate friends are. When life throws you hard knocks, your friends will be your closest advisers. Make sure that the people who can make you laugh the hardest can also give you wise counsel when things get serious.
Since guilty by association applies even to friendships, you should seek friends who are making good life choices. Even if you aren't directly involved in bad decisions made by friends, the consequences of their decisions can have significant impact on you. Make sure that your friends are not consistently needing your help to get past stupid decisions or refusing to take responsibility for their own lives.
Eventually, you begin to resemble the people you spend the most time with. Your closest friends are the people who will influence who you are now and more importantly, who you become. Your friends should be people you admire, people who inspire you, and people who encourage you to improve and to grow.
While you're considering the character quality of the people you spend the most time with, you should spend some time considering the quality of your own character. If the best way to make a friend is to be one, the best way to make an excellent friend is to be excellent yourself.
Tomorrow, we'll visit some great advice from your Granddaddy.
thanks for reading!